According to Ayurveda, sex is one of our most divine and powerful natural needs and as long as you are in a state of balance, it should not be repressed. Rather, it should be fully expressed and enjoyed. If you have a partner, you can better use all your senses to enliven and enrich your sexual experiences. If emotional issues are blocking your path – past experiences, cultural conditioning – seek help in removing them.According to Ayurveda, our fundamental purpose in life is to love. When you realize this and are able to achieve it, your inner love and radiance shines forth and attracts worthy people like honey. Sexual intimacy is but one sublime expression of this love, as well as a means to deepen it. Romantic/erotic love is one of the nine emotions that are natural to life and is a source of rejuvenation, vigor, and beauty.
Most people say they feel better – wonderful, even – after sex. Perhaps you, too, have noticed that the world seems brighter, your skin glows more radiantly, you have a spring in your step, you sleep better, are more relaxed (or more energized) after a night – or afternoon or morning – of lovemaking.
The Bonds of Love
Being radiant and attractive can actually be good for your health. Close relationships appear to improve immunity, reduce the risk of heart attack and cancer, an even prevent the common cold. Numerous studies show that a strong and diverse network of social contacts has a physiological effect on your body and your ability to withstand stress. Humans, so far as we know, are unique in our sexual behavior. We use it not only for reproduction but also to form emotional bonds, and to give and receive pleasure. Perhaps this is why a satisfying sex life seems to be a way to access your inner energetic source of youth and vitality
Understanding Your Sexuality
It’s often observed that people who love themselves and who are at ease in their own skins are those who are most likable and lovable. Ayurveda gives you the tools for this through determining and understanding your doshas, your strengths, and your limitations.Understanding who you are includes understanding how the different doshas express their true selves through their sexuality. There is a great deal of ancient lore on this subject. The guidelines to follow summarize the ways in which your doshas influence your sexual characteristics and suggest which doshas tend to make the best matches. See if this information rings true for you so that you can cultivate your sexual strengths and minimize your limitations. Then consider asking your partner to determine his or her dominant dosha to see if you two are a good match.
Making Sex a Total Sensory Experience All five senses are involved in lovemaking and in the sexual dance that precedes it. According to Ayurveda, your five senses – sight, taste, touch, smell and hearing – are the doorways to your inner being. Your erotic, loving, sexual self is a core component of your inner being. Use your imagination and creativity to experiment with ways to specifically perk up your sex life using the five senses, keeping in mind that preferences for scent, sight, sound, touch and taste are extremely individualized. Here are some ideas to get you started:
Appreciate the Scent of Sex. Fragrance is a potent yet subtle love attractor. Your natural scent may be the most potent of all. Pheromones, the natural scent signals we send out, include androsterone, which has a musky smell and drives libido in both men and women. The highest concentrations of pheromones are in the underarm and genital area. Androsterone is also found in saliva.
Use Aromatherapy. Use aromatic essential oils to enhance your sex appeal and attractiveness or to improve your libido or that of your partner. For your next romantic encounter, light the candles and the aromatherapy diffuser. Oils of patchouli, frankincense, musk, and sandalwood are reported to be aphrodisiacs. To overcome frigidity or impotence, try ylang-ylang. Vanilla is also said to increase sexual desire in men.
Give a Fragrant Massage. Another way to take advantage of the power of scent is to add some sandalwood oil to massage oil and give each other a massage. It contains hormones similar to testosterone, the hormone that drives the libido in both men and women.
Anoint Yourself. In India, the use of aromatic oils is a well-established tradition. To get ready for a night of love, a Hindu woman’s body is anointed with many different scents to arouse her partner. You can be similarly creative with essential oils. Place:
Condition Your Body. Exercise enhances sexual pleasure in many ways. In a study of sedentary men whose average age was forty-seven, the subjects exercised four times a week. They either took an easy sixty-minute walk or did a more strenuous aerobic workout. At the end of nine months, both groups said they enjoyed an increase in their sexual desire and pleasure and an enhanced ability to be aroused and achieve orgasm. Those who did the more strenuous activity reported the greatest gains. Exercise improves blood flow throughout the entire body, including the penis, and therefore may improve impotence in men. And the endorphins released by strenuous exercise are believed to make you more receptive to sex.
Practice Yoga. Among the many benefits of yoga is an improved sex life. Think about it. Practicing yoga regularly makes all your joints more limber and eases back stiffness and pain so you are able to engage in sex more comfortably and experiment with new positions. Yoga increases your strength and energy, improves your appearance, body shape, tone, and complexion. It is also relaxing and boosts self-confidence and self-esteem while allowing you to feel more at ease, more at home in your body. Many yoga positions are particularly effective for relieving tensions and anxiety, to tone the reproductive organs, balance hormones, and strengthen and tone the pelvic muscles.
Get Playful. There is a smorgasbord of sexual toys available to enhance your sexual pleasure via all the senses – sweet honey dust, tickling feathers, lubricating creams, and so on. These are all in keeping with the philosophy of Ayurveda and are available discreetly through the mail, on the Internet, and in small shops in large cities.
Friday, 13 July 2012